Five Love Languages
Happy Tuesday everyone!
I just returned from my (last) college spring break trip and it was amazing. I can't believe I have less than 2 months to go until the big graduation day! My friends and I hit up Destin, Florida to soak in the sun and then I road-tripped it to Mobile, Alabama for a splendid 48 hours with my two best friends from high school.
I picked up this sweet, sexy dress while I was with them!
Y'all, this is the perfect mini wrap dress for spring/summer! It's lightweight and form-flattering. I loved pairing it with a silk scarf-turned-headband and retro earrings & sunnies for a truly vintage vibe. I got so many compliments at church this morning, so I highly recommend this little number!
While catching up with my besties, we all decided to take a quiz to find out our Love Language. Some of y'all are probably scratching your heads, so let me explain...
The Five Love Languages is a book written by Gary Chapman. Essentially, this book is written for couples of all ages and stages, but I ardently believe that anyone, single or not, can benefit from what the quiz teaches you about yourself. I even apply these principles to my work relationships and friendships!
Chapman explains that humans express and experience love in five different ways:
words of affirmation
acts of service
This book (and quiz) aims to help singles and couples alike determine their own personalized love languages, ranked in order, so that they can better love, serve, and communicate with each other. Pretty neat, right? I think we can all agree that everyone benefits from a little self-knowledge!
Here's an example of how these love languages play out in our everyday lives:
Let's say for instance that a man's primary love language is acts of service -- He likes to do things for his significant other (washing the cars, doing the dishes/laundry etc.) and is confused when she perceives these activities as household chores and therefore does not appreciate them as much because her love language is words of affirmation. She may use words of affirmation, which she values, with him which he won't value as much as she does. Seeing where the disconnect begins to happen?
If you and your S.O. have different primary love languages, you may be disappointed when they aren't loving you the way you want to be loved. Usually, we love others the way we want to be loved.
The awesome thing about finding out your own love language as well as your partners is that it makes it so much easier to communicate! My boyfriend and I both score very high in the quality time and physical touch category, so we don't spend as much time going out of our way to do something small for each other, or buying gifts. We know and understand what the other wants and values, and it makes everything so much better! However, it's still good to check in every now and then. Just recently, my boyfriend discovered that he appreciates words of affirmation more than he originally thought. So, I make sure to incorporate that aspect into my communication with him even more now.
My friends and I got on the subject while exchanging stories about our significant others (some call it ranting, we call it discussing, y'all!) When I heard neither of them had ever taken the quiz, I insisted that they had to. My boyfriend and I took this quiz fairly early on in our relationship and its cra-aaazy how big of a difference it made in the way we communicate and serve each other.
Have you ever taken the quiz? If not, here's your chance! If so, maybe you'll surprise yourself and receive different scores than the last time you took it.
Disclaimer: You'll have to enter in your email, but don't worry! I've never gotten any harassing prompts to buy something, and you can always unsubscribe :)
What did you get? Were you surprised? Share the quiz with your loved one and have fun!
P.S. This look and some other gorgeous wrap dresses are linked on my LiketoKnowIt page! You can also scroll to the bottom of this post, or click on the "Shop" tab!